Easter Morning, 2009, Cambria Pines by the Sea
~The Oyster Shell~
You never find two alike. Yes, I believe the oyster shell is a good one to express the middle years of marriage. It suggests the struggle of life itself. The oyster has fought to have that place on the rock to which it has fitted itself perfectly and to which it clings tenaciously. So most couples in the growing years of marriage struggle to achieve a place in the world. It is a physical and material battle first of all, for a home, for children, for a place in their particular society. In the midst of such a life there is not much time to sit facing one another over a breakfast table. In these years one recognizes the truth of Saint-Exupe'ry's line: "Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction." For, in fact, man and woman are not only looking outward in the same direction; they are working outward. Just try and pry an oyster from its ledge! Here the bonds of marriage are formed. For marriage, which is always spoken of as a bond, becomes actually, in this stage, many bonds, many strands, of different texture and strength, making up a web that is taut and firm. The web is fashioned of love. Yes, but many kinds of love: romantic love first, then a slow-growing devotion and, playing through these, a constantly rippling companionship. It is made of loyalties, and interdependencies, and shared experiences. It is woven of memories of meetings and conflicts; of triumphs and disappointments. The web of marriage is made in the day to day living side by side, looking outward and working outward in the same direction.
~~Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift From The Sea~~
(Photo taken by Call)